
A young Kentucky woman hesitated attending church because — well — she was living with her boyfriend without benefit of a wedding ring. That may seem like a quaint concern, but in some churches it’s a big hairy deal that someone would share a dwelling with an intimate partner without walking down the aisle with that partner first.
The young woman was afraid if she showed up with boyfriend, they’d be asked to leave.
The visiting preacher — Internet Monk, to you — said she and her boyfriend were welcome. He writes:
This is hard stuff. Christians believe some things very deeply, but they don’t always see things clearly or express them with Gospel wisdom. When they forget the Gospel, they forget who they are and start finding ways to be justified in comparison to “real sinners.” There’s nothing about the Kingdom of God in a snarky morality club, but too many people don’t know the difference. They usher people out as if they are the angels gathering the elect at the last day, not signs pointing every person, no matter what their sin of the day, to the savior and the wedding feast at the end of the world.
And when someone asked if he would also welcome cohabitating members of the church — as opposed to visitors — he wrote:
Co habitating members are a matter for loving counsel and conversation with the elders of the church and the eventual stance of the church toward such a member or couple is a matter for the elders to work with.
I have never taken a stance towards approving of co habitation of any kind. But I’m a sinner too and my sin is as much a part of any church community as theirs.
Rock on, Internet Monk. It’s more important to be welcoming, in my opinion, than passing judgment.