Consent for Dummies

Rockstar Dinosaur Pirate Princess explains it all for you, what precisely means no. She writes:

…it seems people really have a problem understanding that before you have sex with someone, and that’s every time you have sex with them, make sure they want to have sex with you. This goes for men, women, everyone. Whoever you are initiating sexytimes with, just make sure they are actually genuinely up for it. That’s it. It’s not hard. Really.

If you’re still struggling, just imagine instead of initiating sex, you’re making them a cup of tea.

You say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they go “omg fuck yes, I would fucking LOVE a cup of tea! Thank you!*” then you know they want a cup of tea.

If you say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they um and ahh and say, “I’m not really sure…” then you can make them a cup of tea or not, but be aware that they might not drink it, and if they don’t drink it then – this is the important bit –  don’t make them drink it. You can’t blame them for you going to the effort of making the tea on the off-chance they wanted it; you just have to deal with them not drinking it. Just because you made it doesn’t mean you are entitled to watch them drink it.

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  1. There’s a keeper.
    I’ve been toying with…as I slurp… extending the analogy to cover American coffee tastes:
    –Does consent for French Press include using Folger’s Instant Coffee Crystals?
    –Does consent for espresso include ristretto and lungo? Timing is so important.
    –What about mocha pots? (In America, equipment is everything. So I think, when embarking on the the three-lane on-ramp to informed consent…disclosure, capacity and voluntariness…one should be prepared to provide a complete review of the delivery system prior to…you know…delivery.)
    –In Fifty Shades of America, when someone says latte, they mean latte…not cappuccino.
    – And then there’s temperature surfing. What’s too hot? Too cold?
    –And what about packaging? Paper? Plastic? Metal? Ceramic?
    –And roast? Italian? French? Turkish? (I know…bleh)
    –And flavoring?
    And the grind! Don’t want to clog the basket now…do we?

    I need more coffee….or maybe just some tea.
    Earl Grey or Chai?

      1. Yeah.
        I have to work on my grind, though.
        You just cannot get a good pull without the proper grand.

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